When you’re writing a profile you’re not just trying to make yourself look good. You’re trying to make yourself look better than the other men on the dating site. If you don’t know the competition then you’re not going to know how to show yourself a cut above it. If you want to stand out from the herd, here’s what to do.
Look at a Bunch of Profiles
Do a search as a prospective woman. Look for men’s profiles who share a lot of similar traits with you. Look in your general age range, look at your income and education level, and quickly scan a lot of profiles. This doesn’t need to take you a long time. You just need to get a feel for who you’re up against. Then just search for very broad categories of men. You might find that most men on this particular site are between 25 and 35 and have completed a part but not all of a college degree. Once you feel like you know the site’s average man, you have the information you need to go into battle.
How to Spin Your Age
If you’re a younger man than the average site user you can spin that to your advantage. Mention your youthful abilities and hobbies in your profile. Especially make sure that you emphasize the physical aspect to your life whether you hike, play sports, or just like going for walks. If possible include regularly updated modern pop culture references that older men might miss.
If you’re older than the average user, don’t fear. Just make sure to emphasize your skill, experience, and maturity in your profile. Let the ladies know that when they’re ready to be with a man and not a boy, you’ll be there for them.
How to Spin Your Income
If you make more than the average site user, it’s obvious that this will be a draw for the ladies. You don’t want your true love to be a gold digger, but there’s nothing wrong with admitting that you’re going to take the women you date out for great dates. If you’re looking for someone to hook up with, there’s nothing wrong with doing it in a great hotel or after a fantastic meal.
If you make less than the average user you’re in more of a pickle. The best thing you can do is try to identify why. If you’re a creative type whose passion has yet to make him rich, blame a world that values business over art. Otherwise, try to downplay the importance of money in your dating life. Focus on great activities that don’t cost a lot but would make for great dates, like hiking, swimming, and picnics on the beach.
How to Spin Your Divorce
If you realize that most of the men online haven’t been married before, then you’re going to stick out like a sore thumb. You have two choices: spin your divorce into something positive, or take it off your profile. You can tell a woman later that it was too private to just put online and she’ll probably believe you. On the other hand, you can use it as proof that you’re not afraid to commit and you’re also not going to let one bad experience sour you on love… or casual sex.