Moving from online dating to real life dating isn’t always easy. If you’ve been playing the online dating game for a long time you might not know what to expect. You’ll be meeting a woman in person that you’ve talked to, video chatted with, and probably seen naked all online. If you’ve formed expectations based on how you know her online, don’t be surprised if they’re not all met. The transition from Internet to real life dating can be full of surprises. Most of those surprises are going to occur during your first real date. This doesn’t mean you should panic. It does mean that you should be prepared to adjust your expectations.
She Might Look Different
If you’ve chatted with her at length and seen her naked on webcam, you’re probably expecting her to look a certain way. The fact about webcams is that they’ll usually give you poor-quality video. Webcams are also limited in that you can only see the other person from a certain angle. So when you see her in person and she looks a lot thinner or thicker than what you expected, just chill. Keep in mind you’ve only seen her through live video feed. Chances are really good that you probably look different from what she expected, too.
She Might Act Different
In fact, she probably will act different. Chalk this up to nerves. Once she relaxes and you spend more time together face to face you’ll start to see more of the woman you got to know online. If that doesn’t happen, you need to consider that maybe the personality you were familiar with online was just a front. This is an unfortunate risk that comes with Internet dating, but it’s rare.
She Might Be Shy
Consider how you’re going to feel on the first actual date. The answer is most likely nervous. So if she seems quiet and shy, remember that she’s probably feeling the same way you are. It’s probably going to be the same the first time you have sex. It’s one thing to see her naked on webcam and another to see her naked in person. If you were expecting her to be wild in the sack and she isn’t, don’t be disappointed. Instead, give her time to get comfortable. Chances are once she’s relaxed she’ll be just as kinky as she was online.
Conversation Might Be Awkward
And it probably will. Again, chalk this up to nerves. Maybe online you were able to talk to each other for hours without difficulty. It might take you a while to get some conversational traction, but you’ll be able to get the ball rolling eventually. If conversation is awkward, don’t panic and automatically expect the worst. Be patient.
You May Not Click
This is another unfortunate fact of online relationships. You enjoy each other so much online that it has to be the same in real life, right? Not necessarily. You might meet up in person and find that the chemistry just isn’t there. This isn’t to say it’s going to happen. It’s saying that the possibility is there, so be prepared for it.