So you’ve met a hottie online. She’s interested in you; you’re interested, so now what’s stopping you from meeting up with her in real life? She’s got kids. Kids might change things a little, but they don’t have to be a deal-breaker. You can date a single mom and still have a good time. It just takes a little patience and a certain set of expectations.
Be Willing to Wait
If she’s a single mom, any free time she has to go out with you is going to depend on her ability to get a sitter for her kids. This means that you might plan a date but have to cancel because she can’t get a sitter. It may be disappointing, but it’s a part of dating a single mom. Her kids are going to be her priority. If you can’t handle that it might be time to move on to women that are more available.
Be Prepared to Spend Time With the Kids
If you’re dating a mom, you’re going to have to meet her kids eventually. So if you’re not really the kind of guy that likes to be around kids, consider this carefully before proceeding. If she really gets into you but you bail when she wants you to meet the kids, you’re going to come off looking like a huge douche. Let’s say you’re seriously interested in her. If that’s the case, give her kids a chance. They might grow on you. Even they don’t, dating her doesn’t necessarily mean you’re going to become their stepdad.
Being a single parent is hard work. So after a long day at her job and then coming home to deal with the kids, if she doesn’t want to have sex with you try to be understanding. You knew when you found out that she was a single mom that she had other priorities. Acting like you need to be her number one priority is arrogant and dumb and will turn her off fast.
Try to Include the Family
If you met her kids and it didn’t send you running, consider including them on your dates. Spending a day out with her on the kids will make her happy. It’ll also make her kids happy to be included. Spending time with her kids can give you a better idea about whether or not you’re cut out to handle kids at this point in your life. If you’re not, you can feel better about moving on. If you are, you can focus on the rest of your relationship.
Be Prepared to Stand In
If you wind up dating a single mom for an extended period of time, chances are that you’re going to end up acting as a stand in sitter. It’s a good sign that she trusts you enough to leave you alone with her kids. However, if you’d rather do anything else other than look after her kids, you’ve got a good idea about where this relationship is headed. Don’t be surprised if she acts you to be the sitter. Don’t panic, either. Man up and do it and she’ll be grateful.