Any experienced online dater has answered his share of sex ads. You think that you can’t go wrong; you’re answering a woman who is literally just looking for sex in the near future. If you’ve found that this seemingly foolproof plan isn’t working out for you, you’ve made the same discovery as thousands of men before you: answering a sex ad is hard. These five tips will help you stand out from the pack of men who answer a lady’s every ad.
Keep It Brief
You don’t have to write a novel to this woman to say she’s sexy and you want to have sex with her. She knows that; that’s why she had the ad. If you really want to stand out from the crowd, don’t try to write her a long, eloquent letter, keep things brief and to the point. You should have a couple decent paragraphs and they should be mostly practical information about where you could meet, when you could meet, and the things you’d like to do to her.
Include Other Contact Info
For prompt responses, you should include an email address and/or an instant messenger contact. You don’t want to break out your phone number right away. You need to be sure that this woman isn’t going to be a crazy stalker before you hand over your actual number. But a discreet, mostly anonymous way to reach you is a must have for any successful response.
Don’t Respond to Old Ads
Save yourself time by checking the date of the ad before you respond. If the ad’s more than a couple days old, it’s weird to respond to it if it was “I’m horny now,” sort of ad. If she wanted to meet up in the next few hours, days later is too late. If she was looking to establish more of a “regular friends with benefits” relationship or a no strings attached sexual situation then you should feel free to plow ahead up to a few weeks after the original message was posted. If it’s been more than a month, though, find a more recent ad.
Be Free Soon
Some guys just like to window shop. As a rule, though, only respond to ads if you could meet up for sex in the 12 to 24 hours. If you’re not going to be free to meet her until next Wednesday, why are you even bothering her? Don’t waste your own time, and don’t strike out with a woman so soon. You might be compatible some other day.
Do a Follow up Check
It’s reasonable to not want to hassle a woman who hasn’t responded to you. There are plenty of fish in the sea. You don’t need to go panting after a woman who can’t ever get back to you. However, sometimes things do go wrong. The Internet eats emails, or a service goes down for maintenance and she doesn’t know that she’s got a new message. If it’s been a few hours and she said she wanted to meet up tonight, then feel free to send her another message. Pretend like it’s been an Internet mix up even if it hasn’t. If that gentle reminder doesn’t get a message sent your way, then take radio silence to mean she’s not interested.